Marriage and New wine in new wineskin

'And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. For the wine would burst the wineskin, and the wine and the skins would both be lost. New wine calls for new wineskins'
I want to get married. It is something I have wanted to do since I was a little girl. My daydreams were filled with meal plans, twins boys, a loving husband and a beautiful home. I'm not a little girl anymore. I'm a grown woman and getting married is still a dream. There are days when it seems like it is just a dream, not reality, other days I have quoted bible verses on companionship, marriage and procreation just to remind myself that marriage is in God's plan for me.

Sometimes I wish I had a crystal ball to see into the future to know for certain if I would ever get married but then it would mean that I have not placed my trust and faith in God to handle the situation and give me His best. Trusting God takes His grace, something I didn't learn until after my last boyfriend and I broke up. Another relationship bites the dust, after the stress of *first name-last name compatibility check, deciding on wedding colours and picking wedding songs, how he eats or does he snore and some of the oddest things you can think of. I'm back to square one, single and dreaming. 
About trusting God, so I realized that I was trusting him with what I wanted and thought was best for me instead of trusting Him to give me what is His best for me. And when you're single with no prospective boyfriend or 'toaster' and your family members are constantly asking you 'when will you marry?', it puts your trust in God and how you are patiently waiting for God to say YES to a test. A big test.

I laugh at jokes about girls praying to get married. You know the ones where she's 21 and making demands and giving God specs and then she turn 40, still single and begins to tell God she doesn't mind an ugly jobless dwarf so far he's a man, she'll take him than remain single. case isn't that critical 😂😂😂

Recently, I was praying about marriage and I heard 'Read Mark 2 and 22'. I check, Mark doesn't have Chapter 22 so I hear again 'Then Read Mark 2:22'
Mark 2:22 reads 'And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. For the wine would burst the wineskin, and the wine and the skins would both be lost. New wine calls for new wineskins'
While meditating on the verse, I start to see how my life is the 'old wineskin' and marriage is the 'new wine' and I need to let the Holy Spirit work in me or else, '...the wine would burst the wineskin'.  

            'You say you want this but are you ready for all the changes you'll have to make for it?' 

It's easy to want to get married but it takes work to be ready for it and Mark 2:22 just pointed that I need to let God work on me, turn me into 'new wineskin' for marriage, the 'new wine'. I can easily count things that are not my favourite things to do that I will have to do frequently and selflessly when I get married, not just for myself but for my new family.

So I was reading online the reason why new wine isn't placed in old wineskins. It's because new wine is still undergoing the fermentation process and old wineskin has taken a definite shape, is brittle and isn't pliable. The process of fermentation the new wine is going through will stress the old wineskin and as the bible verse says 'the wine would burst the wineskin, and the wine and the skins would both be lost'. Isn't that also true about humans and relationships? If 'the wine would burst the wineskin, and the wine and the skins would both be lost' why would you want to risk it and cause pain and heartache for yourself and your spouse. I know I don't. Marriage is going to be a one time thing for me. 

I get angry when married people tell me 'marriage isn't easy' (another blog post for another day) but I think I understand what they are saying. As an individual, you have formed habits and opinion, developed attitudes and not all of them are good or helpful in a partnership. If you don't unlearn the bad habits and attitudes, they can cause real damage in relationships. Hence why its dangerous to '...put new wine in old wineskin'.

So this month, I'm praying to God to turn me into new wineskin, making me a better person. I'm willing not just because of marriage but because God will bring out the very best in me.

           Sharing is caring: I want to encourage you to mediate on the bible verse Mark 2:22 and                I hope you will share with me and other readers in the comments your thoughts and                                          revelations on the verse. I can't wait to read what you think.

*first name-last name compatibility: I'm sure some ladies know what this means but for those who do not, it is when you check the compatibilty of your first name to his (i.e. your boyfriend's) last name or surname so let's say your first name is Natasha and his last name is Ajalekoko. If they get married, her new name will be 'Natasha Ajalekoko' and I swear I don't see the compatibility 😂😂😂

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  1. God make us a new wine skin.🙏


  2. Nice. This marriage issue though...for me, while I believe it's a good thing, no a great thing to be married, I feel a lot of people, men inclusive see marriage as an "achievement" in life. The "next thing" to be done. I, of course, do not subscribe to this line of thought. Marriage is a mere choice just the way u choose the dress to wear on a sunny day. So if u attain to get married, get married for the right reasons and not because it is what you must do...sorry, I've veered off as usual. Nice one Tola

    1. I think you stayed the course of the topic and I agree with you. People marry for different reasons but I believe that companionship is a very good reason to get married. The bible says in Gen 2:18 'Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him."